On Socialising – The fine line between being financially savvy and a tightass

A couple of years ago I signed up to receive a newsletter on hints and tips to save money. One edition had the following money saving ‘tip’

To get free food, gather dandelions from a field to make a soup or tea, completely free.

Um, seriously?*

I know some people take saving to the max (ie the above dandelion gathering and extreme couponing) but there is a line between being savvy and just being, well, a tightass.

Personally I live by a simple rule. If I want to be a tightass when purchasing things for myself, ie – a homebrand makeup remover instead of a brand one – then no problems, because that choice effects no-one but me. But never be a tightass in social situations. If friends invite you out for drinks, and you know you can’t afford to go, then stay home. Don’t go out and expect people to shout you drinks all night and then try and skive on the taxi fare for the way home.

This is being a tightass.

We’ve all been out on nights with people like that, it’s annoying and if you continue this habit, people are not likely to invite you out – to avoid having to not only pay for their drunken bender, but also supplement yours.

So you may say, well what am I supposed to do, sit and home and not go out drinking. Well, if you are saving for something or paying off debt, the answer is YEP.

Doesn’t mean you have to miss out on every social occasion. Just save a little aside each time you get paid – or budget ahead – so when you do want to go out, you have enough cash to enjoy yourself and not worry.

This is part of the discipline required to save money or pay off debt. You will have to say no to some – maybe lots, depending on how popular you are! –  social activities. It won’t be forever – just until you have reached your goal. And by then, you might even realise what an epic waste of money alcohol is and only decide to hit the town occasionally anyway.

Plus there are lots of things you can do in social situations for free.  Catching up for breakfast with friends is way cheaper than dinner and drinks.  Or get everyone to bring a dish and go to someone’s place for dinner.

Just make sure your dish isn’t a big bowl of free dandelion soup.

*I am aware there is medicinal benefits for this soup and there is a traditional French soup involving dandelions – but the fact that it was posted as a tip just for the fact of being free with no reference to medicinal or other benefits, I personally found, hilarious.


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2 thoughts on “On Socialising – The fine line between being financially savvy and a tightass

  1. thank you for your post!! I am in this thought process and it has helped me out!

  2. Thank you for your post, I have been in this thought process and it has helped me out.

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